A few months ago, I began a mind game with myself, and it’s called Define what you’re scared of. Every day I take ten minutes and think about what I’m afraid except of Scorpius, and I add some fears to that list. At first they were typical human fears – loss of vision, hearing and memory. I am not afraid of my own death because I’ll be dead anyway and it will definitely be worse for those who stay behind me.
My fear lies in panic thinking that one day I will forget who I am, what I have been doing so far, who are the people who made my life special. I thinking what if I can no longer plug headphones into my ears and boost my Paradise City feeling like I’m sixteen and thinking what if I do not remember one what I have been experiencing while waiting for those movie moments that I thought were only possible in the heads of creative scriptwriters. What if one day my tattoos remain just a symbol of a time !?
These are all assumptions that if one day, and yet at times we forget to ask ourselves what we fear – today? What are you afraid now, this Sunday afternoon while mentally preparing yourself for the new work week digesting Sunday lunch in the warmth of your own home? Nothing? Who are you lying … !?
Are you afraid to start practicing tomorrow, because you know it will be painful after ten squats? Are you afraid to start writing graduate studies because you know the college days are over? Are you afraid to give up because you expect an uncertain period that is worse than chronic dissatisfaction with your current job? Are you afraid that everything will turn out just as you imagine?
Two years I have been writing and designing articles for my blog, to present it to a few months ago. I have a feeling that September was one hundred years ago, not just six months ago. The critical question in my mind was whether I would find enough will to start something from scratch while I did not know where it was going to take me!
And I think this question is a common denominator of all of us who are afraid of success and are waiting for the right moment to do something. Perfect moments just do not exist and we learned this by listening to many gurus of quality living. There is a moment in which we take responsibility so that we can ask what we will, if all goes to hell and perish?
In the constant thinking of whether the fear of success is worse than failing, we are struggling with the limits we set ourselves instead of moving them constantly. For that reason, I went back to the unknown again, I went back to testing and moving my own limits. Life no longer has a general test, and every mental attempt at the start is condemned to failure because when we think that we “try” we are only opening up a great space for failure and a sentence that we will say, and it reads: I knew that everything would go to hell !
But do not be fooled by the fact that we are only setting boundaries for ourselves, but the society is setting them up with a preemptive and condescending look “what do you need that in life”. If I ever listened to the look I felt on my skin I would probably be sitting with my granddaughter in front of the TV and watching Sunday at 2. There’s nothing bad about it or hanging out with your grandmother, but there is bad in wasting your time, and such a hanging out is a waste of time . Not every encounter with each person should be motivating, inspiring, or productive, but it must not consist of a single point in silence as Stankovic asks questions to the guest of the show.
And speaking of silence, I found myself in the shopping center for a cup of coffee. Next to me a woman who is feeding a child and her partner next to her who is playing mobile games. They sat at the table before my arrival, and they sat while I was leaving. Everyone looking at their own cell phone, she occasionally looks at the kid. Stillness. Maybe this is just one of the bad days I caught them, but I was wondering to myself what if that day was just a bad life sequence when we set the boundaries – in education, in decisions, in the child’s upbringing, in choosing a partner !?
Is it possible to feel tremendous every other day by looking forward to what will happen the next day, positive tremor when we are optimistically enrolling a new course, dancing classes …?
Bad days can not be avoided because it teaches us what it means to have good but the step in choosing stagnation instead of progress is centimeter by centimeter closer to a bad life, which as there is no general trial has no reprieve either.
So before all that goes to the hell and falls, do not let it not even begin.
If you fail, you will fail in style of attempts.
Mischievous Words by Marta 
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This little post has been neglected. I think you all lovely people will like it
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Yes, it’s always your attitude towards things that make all the difference. Sometimes bad things can end up being very helpful when we look back over time
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It sure has been neglected. Great read!
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This is such an important post! I’m glad you shared it
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Thank you for reading it
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You definitely hit some of my fears. Having dementia could be a real possibility for me as it runs in my family. I hate to think of a life like that for myself and my husband. I saw what it can do to a caring husband and I hope that Dan never has to go through that. It also amazes me how many people go out to eat and just stare at their phones the whole time. We do our very best to not get on our phones while out at dinner. We are usually really good at it unless we are curious about something and need to look it up then go back to no phones. Really enjoyed your article, thanks for sharing!
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Thank you for reading Lisa. I hope that you and your husband never experience what dementia dose to people. My gradnfather went through that with my late grandmorher. So I know first hand how it can be.
Good for you about no phones at dinner. We just use it to snap a photo or two of us so we have a memory of it. But the ringtone is silenced and nobody looks at it untill the end.
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Same here. My grandpa tried to take care of my grandma when she started with dementia and it took a toll on him and his health declined quickly. She outlived him by 6 years!
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This is such an interesting post Marta. It is so true, we will have good days and bad days. I try and have a few positive things to look forward to every day, even if they are just small things like going for a walk and listening to music, or having coffee and cake with my mum. It’s sad that people are so engrossed in their phones that they ignore the world around them. I try not to use my phone so much when I am around people as I think it is rude and it closes off the potential for an interesting conversation. Great post and fantastic reminders too, thank you so much for sharing ❤ xx
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Thank you for reading Bexa.
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What a wonderful post. We have those bad days and those good days. Lately I have been having more bad days especially when it comes to our finances, however I just try to stay positive and count my blessings. Focusing on negative things in our life will never bring about anything positive. Love and Light to you!
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Thank you for the lovely comment. I hope those bad days are over soon and that good ones take over. Sending you lots of love.
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Thank you so much! It means a lot.
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This post was really inspiring! I totally agree with you, even though I barely think about failing when I try something new or different. I try to enjoy every moment. I mean, life is just too short to think about what went wrong or what I could’ve done better.
Great post!
Lots of love,
Eef. ❤
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Wow this is inspirational. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
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Thank you for reading
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