Not all men are jerks, not all women are bitches – only you choose badly

True, there are jerks and bitches and everything. There are also those who are even worse. But you can’t tell me how bad you have it, complain about how you always end up with bad company if you don’t even try to find better!

Not all women are bitches, but you can’t be bother with a good girl. It is easier for you to swipe left and right and wait for it to be caught than to invest energy in one that is good for you. It’s easier for you to come to a club and take home a woman of questionable morals than to patiently build a relationship. It’s easier for you to take shortcuts and then complain about how everyone uses you.

It’s easier for you to live la vida loca, not realizing that every party has to end once. And of course, there’s nothing wrong with that, we all love to have fun. But don’t complain that you can’t find a normal girl because you choose the people around you. You also choose the attitude you have towards people.

If you treat women like some bitches and whores out there, you won’t attract anything else. You will not attract built people if you do not have a shred of ambition in you. You will not attract the reasonable and caring if you put the attitude that a woman is there just to serve you. You need to give something, no one can just take.

And women… It seems to me that women prefer the hard way.

They choose “bad guys” in the hope that they will change just because of them!

But it doesn’t go that way. None of us will change for the other, we will do it for ourselves and only until it comes to our heads. We change because we either want to grow as individuals or to make it easier for us in a particular situation. And why should he change because of you when you’re already there? It is enough for him to just tell you that everything will be fine one day. Your head is still in the clouds and everything is okay.

Maybe he doesn’t pay attention to you, maybe he doesn’t take you seriously, maybe he belittles you, maybe he even cheats on you or God forbid he hits you from time to time, but you still hope he changes. You choose to stay in torment yourself. You choose to wait for it to come to his head instead of it coming to you, move away and change your situation.

And okay, it’s your choice, but don’t complain about how all men are jerks once you break up.

Don’t complain that you can’t find a normal boyfriend today because you can – they just aren’t interesting and challenging enough for you. Don’t complain even if your last four exes are jerks because that’s obviously your pattern that you have to deal with on your own.

You attract people who don’t appreciate you because you don’t value yourself enough either. People take advantage of you because they see they can. So don’t change others – change yourself.

Allow yourself to love and be loved. Trust me, it’s many times harder than being in a toxic relationship, but when we already love harder ways so much, let’s at least choose the ones that are good for us.