Problems of the children of the future

“When will you have children?”

An issue that young people aged 25 to 35 hear so many times that if they took a dollar for the issue each time, they would raise a three-digit sum of money.

It’s a question that’s almost more intimate than the question when you last had a bowel movement because it involves multiple factors that in most cases have nothing to do with who asked the question. And somehow we like to bother with the one who asked the question because here he is bothering with our future. Well then we analyze whether he asked it with some intent or out of pure curiosity.

And the question makes you think so much, and then you see a sea of reasons why you don’t know the answer to the question “When?” even to answer yourself, let alone the one who asked the question.

The present has taken timid steps into a hazy future. Fear is sown everywhere that even the germs of that weed frighten us, and we do not know how to destroy it and to what extent it can grow.

Jobs, interpersonal relationships, mental health and everyday life in general were reached. And here are some of the reasons why we don’t know the answer to the question where we’re going on vacation in a few months, let alone when we’re going to have kids.

And somehow, when we remember the childhood to us who are asked the above question, we realize how many problems we had then, today a beautiful memory because they did not later make it difficult for us to grow and live.

We want the main problems of the children of the future to be: that the coach didn’t put him in the top eleven, that she didn’t enroll in the Academy of Fine Arts, that Dad didn’t lend him a car to go out, that he didn’t buy a ticket for his favorite band on time, a concert in a town 330km away, ect….

After all, let the problems of the children of the future be the ones they create for themselves, not the problems that someone else puts on their backs.

When we are sure that the children of the future will create problems for themselves that will be insignificant when they grow up and when we know that the weed of fear does not spread at every step, then most will have the answer to the question “When?”

And then when they ask you that question, ask them if they would like to be children of a foggy future? Probably, like many of us “who have time”, they would stop and think and not continue with the question “So what are you waiting for ?!” because then they would realize that they are waiting for the fog to dissipate.

6 thoughts on “Problems of the children of the future”

  1. Such a great post. I have never wanted kids and I get asked when I will have them. I recently found out I have endometriosis though, so when people ask now I say “I can’t, I’m infertile”. That soon shuts people up haha.

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  2. I love this!! I think a lot of people think of children as just something you do, without realizing the huge undertaking and responsibility they are—especially in this modern age when we have a lot more control over childbearing.

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  3. This was such a great read and resonates so much with me! It happens , mostly with relatives when we travel back home and people don’t understand that there’s not a specific age to have a family or that everyone needs to do it at the same time! Thank you for sharing x

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  4. I am so relieved and also stressed that I already have young children within the scope of this pandemic. I had two preemies, which entail higher risk factors, and I have a public school student. I cannot imagine having to decide whether to wait to conceive or try to conceive a child during the pandemic. If I were 10 years younger knowing what I know now (pregnancy is not my body’s “thing” to do well) I would likely end up childless. So my heart goes out to all the women in the world trying to determine if now is a viable time to have children. My prayers go out to you as well.

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  5. Wonderful post! I do have a toddler but my husband and I got married young so I remember the countless questions asked about children AS SOON as you tie the knot or even get engaged and it was a hard question to answer then and I can’t imagine how hard it is during this pandemic. So much more you have to think about. Thanks for sharing

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