Do we really need someone else’s “compass of advice”?

“You should do that like this now…”

“You’d better take a shortcut…”

“I could change that, then I will be accepted…”

Advice is the compass of our indecision in the spectrum of choices. They clear the fog of fear of uncertainty. They’re moving us. They should be an accurate signpost, but they do not guarantee that we will reach our destination.

And for those who don’t seek advice directly, it often turns out that their inner voice is the sum of what someone would advise them. One, to make someone look at a move that has been thought about for a long time in order to reach the goal.

An imaginary map of our desires

In our imaginary map for the realization of the planned, we draw the guidelines of the advice. They are made up of experiences, prejudices and desires. Sometimes some guidelines are found on our map because someone else was supposed to be guided by them, but they forwarded them so we accepted them.

The forwarded guidelines were already on a large number of imaginary maps, but they were rarely traversed. And those guidelines remain in the memory precisely because they were not passed, and they were a piece of advice to draw, so it is easier to just move them like a ball.

When we draw too many advisory guidelines in our map, we somehow get lost in its parts from whose place the goal is not even visible. Not all of these guidelines are malicious, but they should not be blindly followed, especially if the goal has not been achieved with their trajectory.

So we like to cling to quotes today, which we will break tomorrow, because they did not direct us or bring us closer to the goal.

We will pick them up from some role models, but it will not always be a map for the same direction, in the end it may take us the opposite of the goal.

Sometimes the guidelines will make us so tired that we will give up on the goal. Their directions that intersect with each other will give us headaches. It’s like when you have a goal to move to another city and you know why you want it, and then the advice chokes you.

For example, do not go to the house, but to the apartment because it is easier to maintain, do not go to that part of the city is dangerous or do not be so far from work because you will have high transportation costs.

Love tips

We also like to reach for the compass of advice in love situations. Then the guidelines are more than a situation and they often break with each other, so we think how complicated the path to the goal is because the guidelines from other people’s experiences that belonged to some other individual movements turn us in a circle.

A compass of advice is needed to be those who learn from others ’mistakes, not their own. However, not everything is always black and white. Everyone is an individual for himself, so he will best choose which guideline is best for him. Everyone will judge for themselves whether they are ready to go in the direction of the chosen path.

As we set guidelines for our movements, it is important that we do not blindly believe in just one, that the guidelines be adaptable, and that they look toward the goal.

If we do not reach the goal due to incorrectly set guidelines, it means that we handed over the compass to someone who did not compile our imaginary map. We believed in other people’s guidelines too much. Or we, set out on her path at the wrong time.