Real life begins when we stop flattering others

All our lives are intertwined. It is logical, therefore, to influence each other. But where is the limit where we stop being our own, and then what happens?

What does it mean to be truly “your own”

You are your own when you do not have to adjust your attitude to others because you are convinced that they know better. The opinions of others are becoming as important to you as last year’s snow.

You are your own when you realize that no one will applaud you for your dreams but you have to keep them yourself and keep them within you as the greatest sanctuary.

Real life therefore begins when you start taking everything that others tell you with reserve, whether to praise you or to scold you.

Miracles begin to happen when you realize all this. But it needs to happen and it is a long and painful process to understand it all.

It starts with a change in us

Real life begins when you stop gathering people around you, proving your status, education, religion, intelligence, etc., and realize that it may be very annoying to others, and it only feeds your ego. Nothing more! A nourished ego will only upset the balance of your being as it will demand more and more over time.

And then you will want to please people by giving them more and more, just to follow you, just to applaud you, just to approve of you, you will do everything.

If that doesn’t work, you’ll easily be willing to humble yourself, crawl, kneel in front of others, and do anything just to gain a crumb of their approval.

All this time you will be wondering why you are doing this, when it does not make you happy, but rather unhappy, but in spite of everything, it will be difficult to muster the strength and change the pattern.

Real life begins when you no longer have to nod to others as they ask. But when you come to that realization, you will wonder why it took you so long to figure it out and make that one decision, when you could live like that all the time.

You don’t have to hand over the key to managing your life to others.

You don’t have to win all the battles against others, the beauty of life is realizing that you can live peacefully without all those battles.

Being your own, nothing more, but also nothing less.